Tal Gur has been a world traveler since the age of 21. He lives his life dream, and inspires others to do the same by sharing life experiences from his amazing website, Below Zero to Hero.
Please join me in welcoming Tal as he helps us cope with the often overwhelming attraction to Facebook. He gives us tips on what we can do to change this habit.
Do you check Facebook every day?
Is Facebook where you turn when you are feeling bored, down or overwhelmed?
Do you often find yourself checking your account while working on something else?
Whether you’re aware of it or not, there’s a good chance you are addicted. And while Facebook Addiction may not be a recognized clinical disorder (even science needs to catch up with technology), it is not any less serious.
Don’t get me wrong, I am a fan of Facebook. Where else could I so easily connect with people I haven’t seen in years, share my worldly views, and effortlessly keep track of my friends’ activities and birthdays?
But without boundaries, Facebook can also become unhealthy and damaging. It sucks, not only time and attention, but also detracts from genuine human interaction.
I should know, as I used to spend aimless hours on Facebook. There were times when I obsessed about writing fun and witty statuses which would result in “likes” and comments. Too often, I found myself logging on more often just in case something good was posted while I was busy with other things. And once I got on I had trouble pulling myself away – there seems to always be one more thing I want to do or one more thing I want to look at.
It killed my productivity, effected my energy, and interfered with my goals. I knew I needed a change but I didn’t want to go cold turkey and quit – Facebook still had a role in my world.
Can you identify with the above?
If you do, don’t get discouraged. There is solution and it’s simpler than you think. And no, you won’t have to stand before a group of strangers to pronounce, “Hi, I’m Billy Bob and I am a Facebook addict”…
Your Facebook Habit
Facebook addiction, and any addiction for that matter, is nothing but a strongly ingrained habit that has gotten out of control. So, in order to overcome an addiction, we simply need to change the habit.
You notice I said “change” and not “break”, “beat”, or “stop”. There is a reason for that – replacing unhealthy habits with healthy ones is much more effective than just stopping them.
I know I am now entering that never, never land of broken promises about losing weight, exercising, and other unkept new year’s resolutions, but if you want to conquer your Facebook addiction, this is the best place to go.
Although changing an ingrained habit can be difficult at first, with practice and the right process, it can be accomplished.
You may be a bit skeptical about my claims and your ability to change. That’s okay. I would be too if I didn’t know from personal experience and years of research that it is possible, and often better, to break an addiction without quitting cold turkey.
Getting a Grip on the Facebook Habit
Think about your use of Facebook. What eats your time? What is important? For example, keeping up with what is happening with friends and family maybe very valuable; while trying to beat a stranger in a game maybe eating up your life minutes at a time.
In order to change a Facebook habit, you will want to set a goal. That might be a set amount of time a week you spend on Facebook or cutting back the number of times you log in.
One huge help in changing a habit is to have something else you can do when you normally would log on to Facebook or when the urge strikes. Make a list of things that you can do other than Facebook and use it whenever you need to.
Maybe you would like to:
- learn a new skill
- read a book
- spend time experimenting in the kitchen with healthy food
- explore the neighborhood on foot
- spend time with family or build community in your neighborhood
Each time you choose to do something other than get on to Facebook you are reinforcing a new habit.
But that is not enough.
Most people quit after a few days, not because of lack of willpower, but because they either lose motivation or simply forget.
Tracking progress on a daily basis will help address these two issues and lead to success. You can use a piece paper or do it online using a free habit tracker that I had developed to make my habits stick.
Cure Facebook Addiction For Good
I’m aware that I have only scratch the surface here, but perhaps that’s enough to start with. For more in depth help on getting a grip with your Facebook habit, you can download my new eBook which I have available for FREE for a limited time at CureFacebookAddiction.com. It will lead you step by step through changing your Facebook habit for good.
My goal with it is not to stop you from using Facebook, but rather to help you develop more healthy and constructive ways to connect socially through Facebook. When used appropriately, Facebook is fun and healthy and can enrich your life!
Just for a moment imagine what you could do if you had an extra hour every day instead of spending aimless time on Facebook .
Maybe you would be less stressed and more focused, or perhaps you would spend more time with people you care about. Or, just maybe you can do something you have been dreaming about for years.
By changing your Facebook habit, you are giving yourself the gift of extra time. How you use the time is entirely up to you 🙂
Live Out The Dream!
Tal Gur is an Online Entrepreneur, Life Coach, and World Traveler who is passionate about getting dreams off the ground. You can find more about him on his blog, BelowZeroToHero.com, or on Twitter @Tal_Gur