Are you looking for ways to support your child in recovery?
There are about 20 million people in long-term recovery in America.
They are seeking a more positive lifestyle. The negative consequences now outweigh the highs of their drug or alcohol use.
Don’t lose hope if your child is still struggling. Change can happen when you least expect it.
Addiction doesn’t discriminate. Neither does recovery.
When you stay as optimistic as possible, it helps your child continue to change their life for the better.
There are multiple pathways to addiction recovery and ALL are cause for celebration! ~ William L. White
What is recovery?
We know that positive change is a process that takes time. Let’s first take a look at what recovery is.
The “What is Recovery?” project offers many ways to define recovery.
Some of them include the following:
… being honest with myself
… being able to enjoy life without drinking or using drugs like I used to
… living a life that contributes to society, to my family, or to my betterment
… being the kind of person that people can count on
… giving back
… striving to be consistent with my beliefs and values in activities that take up a major part of my time and energy.
You can learn more by reading the 39 Elements of Recovery.
12 Principles of Recovery
Also, the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) identifies the following 12 principles of recovery:
- There are many pathways to recovery.
- Recovery is self-directed and empowering.
- Recovery involves a personal recognition of the need for change and transformation.
- Recovery is holistic.
- Recovery has cultural dimensions.
- Recovery exists on a continuum of improved health and wellness.
- Recovery emerges from hope and gratitude.
- Recovery involves a process of healing and self-redefinition.
- Recovery involves addressing discrimination and transcending shame and stigma.
- Recovery is supported by peers and allies.
- Recovery involves (re)joining and (re)building a life in the community.
- Recovery is a reality.
Addiction and recovery affect the entire family. When family members openly participate in healing, your child will better sustain positive change in the days ahead.
Here are five ways you can help support your child’s early recovery.
1. Reach out and get support for yourself.
There are many different ways to support yourself during this time. A coach, counselor, or support group can be helpful. You will receive help from a counselor. The other people in a support group will be of help as you sort through your emotions. You will feel ready to deal with situations as they come up. You will be more of a support to your child during the recovery process.
2. Keep the lines of communication open between you and your child.
Be sure to acknowledge your child’s efforts and let him know you are there to support him in any way possible. Let your child know that you’re open to talking when he feels the need. Remember, your child is going through a challenging process, so be respectful and considerate of the daily positive decisions they are now making. Help them not to feel alone in the process.
3. Use positive reinforcement to support your child’s healthy choices.
Your reinforcements can be as simple as acknowledging their hard work. If you feel that they have earned more, like a special meal, a gift card, or something they would enjoy and appreciate, that can help. However, keep in mind that rewards are not bribes. They do not need to cost much money and are for after you’ve seen the positive behavior. Always support your child’s recovery, not their continued substance use.
4. Encourage your child to stay connected with friends in recovery.
It always helps to have a support system of like-minded people. Whether they meet regularly in a support group or get together informally, having support from people who understand and have walked the same road can make a difference. Encourage your child to stay connected with supportive family members as well. Young people need a continued support system to rebuild their lives without drugs or alcohol getting in the way.
5. Plan for the challenging days.
Finally, recovery can be a time of optimism and positivity. It can also be a time when your child feels fragile and unsteady. Recovery will not feel good to your child every day. They probably feel relieved that they are now in recovery and are working on getting their life back. However, there will be times when they miss their drug and alcohol use or their earlier lifestyle. Mixed feelings are normal. That is why it is essential to healthily support your child’s positive behavior.
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