Are you looking for ways to help prevent addiction?
Would some tips be helpful as you maneuver the teen years?
When we prevent addiction, we can better give our kids a chance to lead a healthy life.
“Drug overdose deaths continue to increase in the United States. From 1999 to 2017, more than 702,000 people have died from a drug overdose. In 2017, more than 70,000 people died from drug overdoses, making it a leading cause of injury-related death in the United States. Of those deaths, almost 68% involved a prescription or illicit opioid.” ~ The Center for Disease Control
That is a devastating statistic. The CDC states there have been 103,306 drug overdose deaths in the United States during the 12-month period ending in April 2021
As families, we can’t afford to NOT discuss substance use prevention. We NEED to do all we can to help our children avoid becoming a statistic.
Rather than having to pull your child from the negative cycle of addiction, a safer route would be to prevent dependence before it happens.
How can you prevent substance use?
According to the Center on Addiction, “Substance use prevention starts in the home. Years of research – including studies performed by our Center – show that parents are the biggest influence on their kid’s decision to use nicotine, alcohol, and other drugs. But families do not have to act alone. Prevention must continue in schools with age-appropriate programming through a child’s academic career and in the pediatrician’s office through health education and screening.”
You can prevent your son or daughter from going down the road to addiction. Here are six ways to help:
Prevention starts at home
You, as a parent, are the most significant influencer on your child’s decision to smoke, drink, or use other drugs. Having excellent communication skills is helpful, like the ones laid out by the Community Reinforcement and Family Training Approach.
Know who your child’s friends are. Notice any recent changes in behavior or school problems. They can be clues that your child is experimenting with drugs or alcohol. Being proactive and not assuming that this is a rite of passage will decrease the likelihood that addiction will derail your child’s life.
In your child’s school
There is no question that the more information provided about the dangers of drug use during the middle and high school years, the better. Many students receive minimal instruction during their health classes. These classes may occur only once during their entire high school career.
There are ongoing efforts to develop research-based school programs for preventing youth substance use. Yet, due to stigma or wanting to create the appearance of a safe school district, many are reluctant to include much-needed drug education. Some states have started down this road by providing more thorough training.
Mandating drug education every year at the state level is the least we can do to help students stay on track and to help parents stay informed.
At the doctor
So much more is needed from our medical community to help prevent substance use. First and foremost, medical professionals need more training in medical school about addiction and how to treat it. We also need to work on the stigma around addiction. Not only is addiction stigmatized in the community at large, but there is also a stigma against drug use among some medical professionals as well.
The first step is screening all adolescents for nicotine, alcohol, and other drugs. If the medical community offered effective interventions for those students at risk, that would be a helpful first step. Interventions are rare. Some doctors do not provide screenings. Others do not know how to intervene with at-risk students.
What can you do? See if your current doctor can screen your child. Otherwise, find an addiction medicine doctor.
Talk to your children often about drug use.
No matter how well your child is doing, talk to them regularly about the dangers of drug or alcohol use. You could bring it up informally or let them know that you want to have a serious discussion about an important topic. Think about what will work best for your family. Don’t lecture your child. Stay calm, and ask open-ended questions, so your child doesn’t feel defensive or tune you out. Some ways to do this are:
- Separate fact from your opinion.
- Talk about facts as facts and opinions as opinions.
- Ask for your child’s opinion and listen to what they say without judgment.
Some parents feel that if they bring up the topic, their child will shut them out or put ideas into their child’s head. However, research shows that the more information and clarity your child has about your rules on drug use, the better. Stay tuned in to how your child is feeling and any challenges they face.
Another option is to brainstorm ideas on how they can refuse if offered drugs or alcohol at school or a party. Please encourage your child to get involved in activities they enjoy so they are not tempted by peer pressure to try alcohol and drugs.
Set clear boundaries
Being clear on your boundaries and expectations is another helpful tool for preventing substance use. You could set a no-use rule that everyone agrees to follow about alcohol and other drugs as a family. The no-use boundary could include:
- No use of alcohol or drugs before the legal age
- No use or possession of illegal drugs
You could also add a boundary about smoking. Be sure to let your child know the consequences of breaking the no-use rule. The consequences must be immediate, reasonable, and important to your child. Most importantly, you have to follow through on them.
Also, positive reinforcement for abiding by the rule is as important. Notice what your child is doing well and acknowledge it with words or small rewards.
Use positive communication
Whether your child is at risk for drug or alcohol use or not, using positive communication improves your relationship. It increases the chances that your child will listen to you. It is easy to get emotional and discipline your way out of drug or alcohol use. That approach rarely works.
Being understanding, compassionate, and open to listening to your child will give you a better chance of getting to the root of the problem. Your child does want your love and support, whether they acknowledge it or not. The more you can work on the issue as a team, the better.
Unfortunately, our society openly promotes alcohol use and more subtly encourages drug use. Here are some examples of why it’s easy for any child to turn to substance use:
- Kids may know using alcohol or other drugs causes problems, even death. But they don’t think it will happen to them.
- They know they are not supposed to use drugs or alcohol, but that makes them want to do it more.
- Their friends may be using alcohol or other drugs, and they feel pressured to use substances as well.
- They hear of athletes and other people they admire using substances.
- TV and pop music often make drinking and drugs look attractive.
- Kids think drugs will make them feel good and fit in.
Help your child see through these traps. Communicate often. Get to know your child’s friends, and involve yourself in your child’s life. Your son or daughter will be more likely to stay out of trouble when you do.
A Message to Parents
Also, here is an interesting video by Dr. Nora Volkow on the dangers of early vaping for adolescents and how it changes the brain:
You don’t have to be an expert on drugs to talk to your child. You can help prevent their substance use by learning the basics, staying informed, and being proactive.
Your child deserves a healthy, meaningful life. Drug or alcohol misuse can sabotage that. Remind your child that alcohol and other drug use can lead to long-term problems or even death.
Your child needs you. Let’s all help prevent addiction and make sure our kids stay safe!
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This is such an important article Cathy – thank you so much for this – reading your opening for your weekly newsletter was so powerful and I wanted to share it here for other readers to see:
Hi Lisa,
Here we are at the start of 2020!
A whole year to make changes or continue with what is going well in our lives.
There are many inspiring messages about the new year on social media, such as:
2020 – This is your year to shine
2020 – Just believe that good things are on the way.
2020 – 12 new chapters. 365 new opportunities.
or
May your 2020 be full of healing, transformation, blessing, and success.
These messages are full of hope and positivity for our new year.
Then I saw this message:
2010 – 2020 – the decade that we lost half a million Americans to the opioid crisis.
This message was soul-crushing. Half a million people, really?
I checked the CDC website to verify the numbers. I found this:
“Drug overdose deaths continue to increase in the United States. From 1999 to 2017, more than 702,000 people have died from a drug overdose. In 2017, more than 70,000 people died from drug overdoses, making it a leading cause of injury-related death in the United States. Of those deaths, almost 68% involved a prescription or illicit opioid.”
Read this one more time – 702,000 people died, and that is only through 2017.
Heartbreaking!
How could we have allowed a decade to go by with this amount of human loss without doing something profoundly different?
People need to be able to have access to treatment and medication management.
Research-based practices need to be more readily available.
A robust prevention program needs to be happening in schools across America.
And why isn’t that happening?
We are in this situation because of a combination of mismanagement, one size fits all thinking, greed, and stigma.
Our communities, as a whole, cannot let go of the stigma of addiction. I know in the city where I live, addiction continues to be a taboo topic. Addiction is embarrassing.
It makes a person feel bad or assumes that you weren’t a good parent if your child has a drug or alcohol problem.
And yet, here we are, with many many families mourning the loss of their precious sons and daughters. As a society, we’ve allowed them to perish rather than get proactive.
The war on drugs has not worked. The “Just Say No” campaign did not work. The D.A.R.E. program did not work.
Some of the drug companies are being held accountable, and that is a good thing. Yet, so much more is needed. Policies need to change.
Quality treatment needs to be available to all who need it. We know that more extended stays in treatment are beneficial, yet we are still providing 30-day programs that, for many, are unaffordable.
If we were losing this many young people for any other reason, this would have been corrected years ago. We are out of excuses.
There are programs in place at the federal level. Yet, our country will never be as great as we want it to be when we are losing a generation filled with potential.
No matter what your political position is, this is a bipartisan cause. We need everyone to step up and be part of the solution.
Things need to change state by state, community by community, family by family. We need tools that work. We need to require prevention programs in schools. We need parents to be informed and take this problem seriously, whether they feel their child is at risk or not.
Let’s do something different in 2020 and beyond. Let’s make significant changes so that we never see this kind of loss again due to addiction.
Thank you, Lisa, for sharing my Sunday newsletter message. That is a great idea!
Thanks for the alarming and educating post, Cathy. Unfortunately, I did not do many of these right with my kids. However, very fortunately and to their credit, they have chosen not to use drugs or alchohol much. We must have done something right, I guess.
It’s more important than ever, in light of these statistics, that parents do know what to do.
You have some terrifying information here Cathy…hopefully many parents will read it and begin some of the practices you recommend. I’m sending it to my daughter for her to share with friends with children.
Those statistics are alarming, Cathy. Thanks for educating us. It seems the most important thing to remember is that substance abuse can be prevented. But if it is in play, I appreciate your emphasis on positive communication with your children.
So true, Sandra, that substance use can be prevented. Parents do need to be vigilant and realize that their teen’s experimentation could lead to something more serious. Thanks for stopping by.
I love this article! What a great resource for parents!