Do you have concerns about your son or daughter’s substance use?
For many parents, that is a confusing and frightening situation to face.
Addressing these matters requires a collaborative and supportive approach from family and friends.
First and foremost, your dedication to your child’s well-being is commendable.
It’s essential to approach this situation with sensitivity and understanding.
Research shows that a more compassionate approach will encourage your child to feel more open to discussing their situation.
Here are a few ideas that can help:
Open Communication:
- I encourage open and honest communication between you and your child. Express your concerns calmly and listen to their perspective without judgment. A non-confrontational conversation can help build trust and create an environment where your child feels comfortable discussing their experiences.
- Asking open-ended questions can be helpful in encouraging positive communication. These are questions that start with words such as What or How. They do not have a Yes or No answer, so there is a way to encourage your son or daughter to share more information and to feel heard.
Seek Professional Guidance:
- If you feel that the situation requires professional intervention, consider reaching out to a healthcare professional or counselor specializing in substance use. They can provide expert guidance and support tailored to your child’s needs.
- Look for a professional who uses research-based approaches, including CRAFT, Invitation to Change, Motivational Interviewing, or Acceptance and Commitment Theory.
- Ask questions and continue to do research about different professionals in your area until you find one that is a good fit for your family.
Educational Resources:
- Knowledge is a powerful tool. I can provide you with resources and information about substance use, its impact on adolescents, and available support services. Being well-informed can empower you to make better decisions and support your child effectively.
- Some places to start are Partnership to End Addiction. Their website has a wealth of informative articles. They also offer groups for parents concerned about their child’s substance use.
- I encourage you to check out the CMC: Foundation for Change resources. You will find articles, Invitation to Change group information, training, a podcast, videos, books, workbooks, and more.
Community Support:
- Connect with local community resources that specialize in substance use prevention and treatment. Support groups, counseling services, and educational programs can offer additional assistance for both you and your child.
- Many communities offer county programs with no or low cost for those struggling with substance use and offer services for family members as well.
- Your doctor and medical services may also have programs to help you and your child.
Establishing Boundaries:
- Collaborate with your child to establish clear and reasonable boundaries. Setting expectations together helps build trust and provides a framework for navigating challenging situations.
- Boundaries are something we set for ourselves, not something we expect of someone else. The boundaries you define for yourself will give you some control over a chaotic situation.
- There are two critical keys to successful boundary setting. First, let your son or daughter know your boundaries. Second, only set boundaries that are fair and make sure you are able to follow through on them.
Monitoring and Support:
- Regular check-ins and monitoring can be valuable in understanding your child’s experiences. Reinforce positive behavior and provide emotional support, emphasizing that you are there for them throughout this process.
- This is easier if your child lives at home, yet you can keep in contact with your adult child living away from home and continue the conversation to see how you can help.
- Evidence has shown that families can influence a loved one to seek change.
Encourage Healthy Coping Mechanisms:
- Help your child explore healthy ways to cope with stress and challenges. Encourage involvement in positive activities such as sports, creative pursuits, or hobbies that can serve as constructive outlets.
- Acknowledge that their substance use plays a role in helping your child cope with whatever trauma they’ve endured or stress they are feeling. As you practice open communication skills with your child, encourage them to discuss their feelings and do what you can to redirect their coping strategies in more positive ways.
- Positive reinforcement can help with encouraging positive behavior. Engage your child in healthy activities and notice when they do something well.
Strengthening Family Support:
- Consider involving other family members in the process. A united front provides a consistent and supportive environment, reinforcing the importance of family bonds.
- Siblings can often feel the impact of their brother or sister’s substance use but can also feel powerless when it comes to making decisions.
- Find ways to check in with and support other members of the family as much as possible so siblings don’t feel ignored.
Remember, addressing substance use concerns is a journey, and noticing signs of progress may take time. Your commitment to your child’s well-being is crucial to their recovery path.
Please feel free to reach out with any questions or concerns. I am here to support you and your family every step of the way.
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